I feel like life has been on fast forward the past few years. There has been so much happening and the weeks have turned to months and we are now at the end of another year .
I am not sure if anyone actually makes new years resolutions any more. I don’t know if making resolutions is the smartest step to take when you want to make change. They tend to be very rigid and focused on not doing something anymore. I have made a resolution or two in my day and they often did not work out. Something I have learned over the past few years coming back from my concussion and chronic lower back pain is the power of positive mindset in everything you do. Now, in my wise old age of 32, I prefer to set positive action goals. When I write out my new years goals, I focus on doing more of something positive in my life. The neat thing about this is that when you focus on doing more of something, it tends to push out and leave less room for the habit or action that you don’t want around anymore.
The first year that I was able to read again after my concussion, I set the goal to read 30 books that year. As my brain had begun to heal, I had slipped into the habit of watching TV after work. I was tired and needed chill time but I would often feel depressed about my life if I spent my time after work on TV shows. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with a episode or twenty of Entourage every now and then. However, for me it was depressing. Since I could handle visual stimulation again, I set my goal to read more. I found books that where funny, easy and entertaining, just like the shows I was watching. As I focused on my goal, and wrote down each book I finished, I found that I was spending less time in front of the TV and felt more satisfaction with my life.
This idea of focusing on a positive action and recording each victory or mile stone along the way can be applied to any goal. For example, you want to eat healthier. A few positive action goals could be
Instead of focusing on what you don’t want to do (eat too fast, eat processed and packaged food, miss vegetables at meals etc.) you are focusing on doing more of something.
This is such a successful mindset as you will be able to see any little step as a victory and build on it day by day. Often times, when you set a goal to NOT do something or to STOP doing something, as soon as you slip up once, you feel like a failure. Then you only see what your doing wrong and it makes it harder to make positive actions.
With a positive goal, you get to recognize each and every little action towards your goal. Lets say for example that your goal is to have more vegetables at each meal. Mid week, and work was crazy. The lunch provided was just sushi rolls and the only vegetables in sight were the avocado and nori. You choose to do your best and avoid the deep fried rolls, eating slowly and stopping at satiety. Then at dinner, you have an extra serving of vegetables. That day is a total success!! Sure, its not perfect, but you did your best under the circumstances. Over time, your mind only sees what your doing right and you do more and more and more of it.
Bend but don’t break. Be flexible yet firmly rooted A bend-but-don’t-break or go-with-the-natural-flow attitude is one of the secrets for success we can see in nature
So, on this eve of 2017, lets set some positive action goals!
Have an amazing New Years Eve and lets make 2017 your most bulletproof year yet!
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